Hey Everyone!
Welcome back to another Faithful Friday. Are you ready for another fruit?? I don't know about you, but I am really enjoying this series! I feel like I am learning so much about myself and growing from these. Before we get started, were you all peaceful last week??? I really made an effort and I think I did a pretty good job at maintaining my peace.
Now for today's fruit...Forbearance AKA Patience.
YIKES! Oh girls, this is going to be a tough one for me. I have very little patience, I mean, like zero! Maybe it is because I am so busy in life that I feel like "I don't have time" for nonsense. I think there is a fine line between being patient and being a push over and me being a push over just isn't going to happen! haha!
The simple definition of "Forbearance: is - a quality of someone who is patient and able to deal with a difficult person or situation without becoming angry.
When I read the definition I realized that I am that someone! Hallelujah! I deal with difficult people and situations DAILY. So as it turns out, I practice forbearance Every. Single. Day.
How do we apply forbearance to our daily lives?
I am going to break this up into 2 sections because the definition says "difficult person or situation".
1) Difficult Person
The way I manage to get through my day is to realize that when people are rude to you, it's not a personal thing. Chances are that it probably doesn't have anything to do with you at all. People being rude or difficult is a reflection of what is going on inside of them. Maybe they're scared, maybe they're having a bad day, maybe they're just being a baby and need to get over it (see, I told you I'm not the most patient person) Bottom line is, you need to rise above their childish ways and maintain your positive attitude. If you are able to do that then you will stay in control of the situation. Which is the ultimate goal here. Be an example to them. Show them that even though they are going to act like they need a time out- you are an adult and you aren't going to waiver. They'll come around soon enough. Now on the other hand (The not being a push over hand) DO NOT let someone treat you like garbage and get away with it. My favorite thing to do is to give people "The Look" when I don't approve of they way they are acting. A simple raise of the eye brow is all it takes. Or if I am on the phone and can't give them the glare o' shame, I'll say something like "WOW!" or "Oook" Then before I know it, they apologize for being rude.
2) Situation
I think we can all agree that difficult situations are going to come up sooner or later. No matter what it is, it is important to maintain control and be patient. Try to focus on the outcome of the situation rather than the chaos that is happening. If you find that you just can't gather yourself them try to appoint someone to be in control for you. I have noticed that in most situations that I am the one in control. For instance, in an emergency, I remain cool as a cucumber. I listen to everything that is going on. I take in all of it. I pay attention to the small details. I ask questions when I need to. Don't get me wrong (I might break down after the fact. Highly doubtful) but in the midst, I am patient.
In either situation my goal is this, I need to make sure that I am pleasing God. I know that I am pleasing Him when I don't get angry and loose control. If something comes up and I feel like I am on the verge of loosing my composure. I focus on Him and that helps me through it. Remember, no matter how alone you might feel, God is always with you.
Man, this was a long one! I know I said that I am patient day to day, but that is on a work level. This week my goal is to be patient on a personal level and focus on that outside of work. Wish me luck! haha.
I hope that you all enjoyed this post and that you have a great weekend. I will see you all back on Monday. If you've missed any of the other FOTS posts, I will link them below for you.
Until next time...
Xoxo,
Adela
Peace-
Joy-
Love-
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